Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Pep Talk: 7 Ways to Uplift Yourself

Happy Hump Day!

Black Crop Jacket - Thrifted $5!
Peach Collared Shirt - Heartbreaker
Blue Denim Jeans - Nordstrom Rack (?)
Black Fringe Booties - Gift from Mom
Gold Fringe Necklace - Len Druskin

 I hope the middle of the week brings you joy! I almost drove myself crazy yesterday and it deserves to be shared. I am happy with my life and where it is right now, but how many of you can relate to feeling antsy about something? I've been super antsy with what ifs about the future, that its driving me to not appreciate the present. I found myself starting to have a shorter fuse, starting to be paranoid about thinking others were trying to hold me back or upset me. I started to doubt and get upset and impatient about my present state. Taking on the I want it now attitude! Or the I don't care about anything right now because I just want to make it already! Or the if this person does this or that, I'm just done with everything!

Have you ever felt that?

God stopped me right in the middle of my doubting, pessimistic thoughts. Gave me a pep talk right there and then - when I really needed it, and it helped!
I am sharing 7 ways to uplift yourself when your waiting, when you feel wronged, or just having a bad day. I want you to know you can keep trekking and enjoy your present status so you can truly appreciate your future. I am hoping these will help you today!

1. Respect the Process. 

You have to be able to work in someone else's yard, before you can truly appreciate your own. We live in an "I want it now" world, where everything is basically at your fingertips. The one thing that we cannot control is our future. Put in good works today, and reap the benefits of them tomorrow. But appreciate and learn today. Tomorrow will come and it will be well worth the wait. Getting antsy and jumping the gun, is the first step to being led astray and becoming distracted with the situation at hand. It will pass, but you need to understand there is a process to it all and in this process you are gaining something, where you see it yet or not. 
-1 Peter 2:19-23

2. Have compassion for others. 

This is by far one of the hardest, but most important. We are supposed to love our brother, no matter what. Even when we feel like they're critiquing us, putting too much on us, or their being just plain ol' mean. But putting ourselves in our neighbors shoes for a few minutes allows us to see things from another point of view, even if we don't agree or like it - we can try to bridge the gap in understanding their actions. This helps us to let go of  hurt and strife, and focus on love - which is the greatest Kingdom principle. 
-Mark 12:31

3. Take responsibility for your feelings. 

We get worked up and upset, or sad, but then we forget that we can choose our emotions. Those nasty things hit us really hard and although it may seem impossible, you've done it before and you can do it again. Take control by telling yourself "I can look for the good in this situation." And really do that, look for the good - it's there somewhere. I've told myself many times, "Okay Jena, pull yourself together!" I've made myself believe a different perspective, even when I really didn't believe it - ex:"They did not intentionally mean to hurt your feelings.This will help you realize that no matter who is right or wrong - its up to you to determine how you are going to choose to deal with it. Don't let your feelings rule over you or be your excuse for po. 
-Ephesians 4:26

4. Think on good things.

Your coffee was spectacular this morning! Yay, you got a good score on your assignment! You have a loving family! You are alive to see another beautiful day that many are not seeing right now! Being happy over the little things and celebrating little wins help to build you up bit by bit. 
-Phillipians 4:8

5. Take advantage of 'Now'. 

Taking your eyes off of the situation or distraction, and placing it back on God will do more than help you, He'll likely show you the tasks that still need to be done before you get where you are trying to do. Sometimes we want to get the big promotion, but we do not have experience in doing presentations, or managing others. Taking this time that you are waiting, to test out and try out opportunities around you will help you prepare for your future, and in the same moment forget about the antsy things that are bothering you. Making a decision to continue your good works, even if things are taking longer than usual, will help you in the long run. Keeping your focus on Christ and he will lead you to where you need to go today. 
 -Isaiah 26:3

6. Give. 

It is so important to be charitable. Giving is not only a Kingdom principle to God - it is a feel good booster. It always makes you feel better to do something for someone else, to help a person in need, to volunteer your time to building another person up. It not only helps you to boost your mood, but it also helps someone else and guess what? You are no longer thinking about all of those things you were so antsy about before. If you decided each day to write down something you must do for someone that day and just put your focus there, it would be amazing to see what you could accomplish. Try it. 
-Luke 6:38

7. Dress for the future.

I don't know about you, maybe its being a fashion blogger - but something about a good outfit makes me beam. No lie, when I get up and get dressed and feel like I look great, I feel great. When you are feeling down, the worst thing you can do is lounge around in sweats all day, or roll out of bed. Although, its hard it will be a huge mood boost for you in a troubled time because its hard to have a bad attitude when you feel so good :) We also want to dress ourselves with good qualities and thoughts each day. Putting on an "I can do all things" smile, will not only help you feel good but it will make you begin to believe what you are saying - win/win!
-Ephesians 4:22-24; Phillipians 4:13

I hope these were a help to you and continue to help you along your way! 

Have a great day!

- J


  1. I get bogged down in the future. I am blessed with a gorgeous family and am so happy right now but worry about the future even though I know it says in the bible about not worrying for the future and that the birds of the sky don't worry about where their food comes from and things like that and yet I still worry. My head knows it but sometimes my heart doesn't listen. How do you tell your heart/head to get itself in the game and pay attention?

  2. Hi Hannah! Thanks for commenting. I try to set reminders in my life to keep me on the right path. That could be a reminder on my phone with a good quote or scripture, or even post it notes up at my desk. You will be tempted with these thoughts, and I feel as mothers and women naturally we tend to worry because we are juggling so many things - but it is daily walk and we really just have to focus on one day at time. Sometimes I will turn up music really loud to just get out my head for awhile. Those are things that have helped me! You've inspired me, I think I may do a post on some tips that have helped me and get everyone talking about what they do! Thanks so much!

  3. If I think about the future, too much even if it's just later today I get anxious. I think it is easier to do what I can and focus on now and trust God with the whole future thing. It's a coping mechanism and works for me!

  4. I have a tendency to worry too much about the future too, not even like years in the future, sometimes I worry about next week! I try hard to just focus on the present and appreciate it for what it is, but it can be very hard sometimes!

  5. Beautiful, Ms. Jena! Remember that one of the principles of the Kingdom of God is PATIENCE too! :)

  6. Thanks! Right, which is really the underlying theme for it all!

  7. Beth, same here! It can be difficult, but patience and confidence is so necessary

  8. Exactly, just give it to him and give him your worries too - that is what helps me! But from time to time it rears its head again and I have to remember!

  9. You look very pretty! & I love these tips! Sometimes I get wrapped up in thinking that the way I am doing things or the way my life is going is not the way it's supposed to but that is such bologna! So I need to learn how to respect the process more :)

  10. Great pictures and a wonderful post.

  11. What great words!! Just what I needed to hear today!! <3

  12. Your post made me smile! Great outfit

  13. You're always so pretty in your photos! And this post is such a great reminder that I needed to hear today.

  14. Wonderful verses and I'm in love with that neckless!

  15. We all do, but yes respect that process! It has a beautiful way of working things out!

  16. Aww, perfect! Glad you stopped by Ashley!

  17. Erica, me too! Thank you so much :)

  18. Loved reading your post and I agree pretty much with what you've said.

    Alex - Funky Jungle

  19. Great advice. I personally struggle a lot with the "respect the process" aspect. Patience is truly a virtue.

  20. Thanks for reading Alex :) Glad you can relate!

  21. Kari, its can be hard - but the process is well, the process.. Thanks for visiting :)

  22. Carrie @ Curly Crafty MomOctober 16, 2014 at 10:28 PM

    This is such great advice and I needed to hear this today! I really love your new hair and those tassel black boots... this outfit looks so comfortable for going out in and looking stylish!

  23. That necklace is darling. I love it! Also, everything you said - so true!

  24. Thanks so much for reading Carrie! This is super comfy, the boots are like walking on pillows :)

  25. Awesome advice honey! You are gorgeous by the way. Love the outfit especially that necklace. Beautiful. Thank you for linking up with the Thrift Sisters.

    Thrifting Diva


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